The Spanish have a reputation as romantic and passionate people.
Some would be more comfortable paying their own way while others would expect the man to pay.
While I appreciate the traditional sentiment that the man should pay for a date, that rule grows out of an even more basic concept: the person doing the asking does the paying. However, a first date generated from an online relationship is different.
For French men, it's all about the chase, and playing ‘hard to get' is part of the game.
If you're interested in someone, maintain eye contact – if you aren't, don't.
If you say ‘no' to an invitation, he may well think you're playing hard to get and will probably persist.
If you really aren't interested, then be very clear and tell him politely but firmly (the hints that might work back home, won't work here).A couple of male callers-in also commented that because it was a date, they would expect to pay.Yet, as the hosts discussed the issue with other women in the studio during the break, they found opinions varied.Here's a guide to take you through your first Euro date.To gather real accounts of the European dating scene, last year we asked around 500 (mostly, but not exclusively, heterosexual) expats living in the Netherlands, Belgium, France, Germany, Spain, and Switzerland a series of up-close and personal questions about themselves, their relationships and their sex lives.If they want to share in paying for a date, the time to negotiate is at the time of the ask. At this point in the relationship it keeps everything neutral.If things go well and one asks to see the other again, then theyre into the person who does the asking does the paying. Please click here to take my poll which is on the Emily Post home page about who should pay on that first date after meeting online.Have you ever questioned who pays for dinner on a same-sex date? Even with decades of openly gay dating under our community’s collective belt, many still get confused when the dinner check arrives.What rule of thumb do you go by for what seems like an archaic conundrum? Wasn’t life easier for everyone when the guy just paid for everything?Also, consider these phrases as code for “I’ll pay”: “Please be my guest”; “It will be my treat”; “I’d like to invite you to join me…” and “Let me take you out to…” It’s good to remember your manners in any dating situation by offering to pay for yourself or contribute toward the tip, even when you know you’re the guest.And it’s wise to be prepared to pay your own way, because you never know if your date intended to pay.