There’s nothing more frustrating than spending the evening with someone so shallow they’re the human equivalent of a puddle.
Although everyone is attracted to different people, and there’s nothing wrong with that, there’s nothing worse than being fetishized for your body type (and nothing’s less romantic than being leered at you while you eat your food).
I take pride in my appearance, my work, and every other aspect of my life. Just because I’m plus-size doesn’t mean that you can wear sweatpants to a fancy restaurant when meeting my parents.
I've found that something about being plus-size causes people to assume that, if you don't have a partner, then you must be lonely.
As much as I hate to admit it, dating has helped kill the hopeless romantic in me.
While I’ve always been a bit cynical about the idea of true love (which has played a role in my decision to never get married), dating while plus-size has left me loving the single life.Not only do I have to face the regular hurdles of dating (like what to wear, where to go, and whether or not to have sex on the first date), I'm also forced to navigate some unique challenges reserved for plus-sized individuals.From offensive assumptions to overly excited relatives, here are the nine reasons dating while plus-size sucks (and why I’m happier ticking “no” for the plus-one box on invitations). I’m bad at everything from the awkward conversations with people I don’t know, to mingling uncomfortably with strangers at parties.It’s not that I’m an introvert or anti-social (alright, fine, I’m anti-social), it’s just that over the years I’ve found that dating, as a plus-sized woman, is more of an exercise in patience and frustration than it is one in romance.Unfortunately, there are a lot of people who believe this stereotype, and I’ve been on more dates than I can count where I’ve ended the night almost as soon as it’s started because my companion thought buying me dinner and being affectionate meant they were entitled to something afterwards.Getting ready for a date can be tricky for even the most fashionable of us, but it can feel downright impossible when you’re fuller-figured.As much as I love my family, there’s nothing more annoying than their excited little cheers when they find out I’m going on a date. There’s nothing more annoying than their “about time-s,” “finally-s,” and “now you won’t die alone-s.”Maybe it’s just me, but the biggest turn off during a night out is when someone gives me a backhanded compliment about my weight.I’ve heard everything from, “I think it’s so great you’re confident enough to wear a dress like that...Being attracted to plus-sized individuals is great (there's even a strip club for BBWs in Vegas), but only valuing them for their weight and not for who they are is a big problem.It’s not being body positive and it’s not forward thinking — rather, it’s dehumanizing and not OK.