Rely on God's love, wisdom, and sustaining presence while you're dating.Though God won't do all the work for you, he'll be with you every step of the way.
The good news is that most men don't have a problem with this.
Regardless of your theology on the Predestination of Girlfriends, you're probably eager to be an active participant in your dating life. Myth #2: "The Bible has clearly defined guidelines for dating." People didn't date in biblical times.
" (No, that wasn't a suggestion for you to set up an arranged marriage.) For the Hebrews and the early church, dating wasn't an issue to be addressed in Scripture. When the Bible was written, a person basically had one of three options: remaining single, an amoral life with multiple partners or prostitutes, or an arranged marriage.
There were courtship rituals in place, but nothing that looks like what we consider dating today.
Some Christians take a lot of comfort in the idea that God will do the heavy lifting when it comes to dating.
God will tell them if a relationship is right, and God will end it if it's not.There are plenty of them, but let's focus on what I believe are the top five myths that make dating harder for Christian men.Myth #1: "God has one woman picked out for you to marry.Before that, the couple has to take the initiative.Rather than directing the course of the relationship, God wants the couple to grow and learn how to make a commitment.There are things floating around that have little or nothing to do with the Bible.Most are well intended and contain a nugget of truth. Dating is hard enough without sifting through all this erroneous information, so let's debunk some myths.One glance at the numerous books about love, dating, and marriage suggests that we're making a lot of this up as we go along.Of course, there are biblical principles that are essential in dating.The church has reached a difficult crossroads when it comes to pre–marriage romance.We no longer have rituals of courtship and arranged marriage to guide us every step of the way. It's also spawned a whole range of opinions and advice on how to handle dating.