After living in South America for over a year, here is my take on being a gringita and the rules of dating in South America. You ask…It is a common phrase used to describe men of Latin America who act like a, ¨Macho man¨ often exhibiting behaviors such as possessiveness, aggressiveness and an overall attitude that they It is a common topic in conversation here and some women have become so accustomed to it, that they accept it as normal.I have dated a few men who were machisimo and if I had not recognized the signs in the beginning it could have ended very badly. Exhibiting stalker behaviors like showing up at your house without your approval or spreading nasty rumors when you decide that you need some space.Be Yourself Amplified gender roles are not just exclusive to South America.
After living in South America for over a year, here is my take on being a gringita and the rules of dating in South America. You ask…It is a common phrase used to describe men of Latin America who act like a, ¨Macho man¨ often exhibiting behaviors such as possessiveness, aggressiveness and an overall attitude that they It is a common topic in conversation here and some women have become so accustomed to it, that they accept it as normal.
He is probably not use to such an open minded person and your alternative ways of seeing things may shock him in the beginning.
If you can both be patient and be open to discuss where you are both coming from, you may end up forming a mutually supportive relationship that will only foster an immense amount of learning and curiosity.
And the relationship “work” takes on a different meaning when your partner is not a race worker.
When I first met an Ecuadorian man who I actually looked forward to spending time with I thought, JACKPOT!!!
Many of the Ecuadorians I knew growing up were all family members or very close friends of our family. Thus, the likelihood that I would meet and marry someone Ecuadorian was a little off my radar. And when I met Ecuadorian men, I did think about how comfortable my future would be without having to explain Ecuadorian cultural nuances. The fact that he was darker skinned and I was lighter skinned (I found out he preferred lighter-skinned women and I absolutely despised this about him) caused many arguments. My lack of all things Ecuadorian and his all too knowing about the kind of Ecuadorian woman he desired — we just could not get through. She cooks, cleans, makes sure her home and daughters are neat, and she will always look beautiful doing it. One day, my father and I were talking about how the lack of these skills affected me and my dating prospects. Soon, the conversation turned into a “Mom-you-should-have-taught-us- how- to-do-X-Y-and-Z!!! I don’t want you or any of my daughters to be like me.” In Spanish. But my mother taught me that these things are (or should be) choices. And while there were definite fears of what being an Americana meant — love and independence were aspects of life she wanted for her daughters.
I wondered if I was lazy to think this way – thinking that life may be a bit easier to find a partner who is Ecuadorian? The fact that he wanted a “typical Ecuadorian woman” definitely came up. Despite all of these issues, we learned so much from each other. I learned a lot about Ecuadorian history and literature – and we actually enjoyed the disagreements. ” After a couple of those outbursts, my mother looked at us and told us to shut up. It is after all (she said), why she left her country, all that was familiar to her, for the U.
I understand, they can be irresistible with their charm, accent and often seductive dance moves.
If you do start dating a Latin man, don’t be surprised if you find out that he has never ventured too far from home.
What has been your experience with dating in South America?
Since a young age Jenna has always had an undeviating desire to explore the world and all its hidden niches.