And then there’s also the concern about one’s looks.Charges can be made, people have to go to court and that cool older guy you're hooking up with might be labeled as a sex offender for the rest of forever.Hey, he knew the consequences and he decided that he didn't care, but do you want to get wrapped up in all of that?These laws exist for a reason, and they're there to protect young people from predatory jerks. If you and your friends are meeting up with dudes in their 20s and you're trying to keep it on the DL, you might be worried about getting caught.And honestly, as cool as forbidden love sounds, it's often not always worth the anxiety. Think about it like this: You might be mature for your age but is he immature for his? If women his own age aren't giving him the time of day, then that means something.Reason #2: The whole, “slave master” guilt trip is applied almost exclusively to black women.Many of us have been vulnerable to the guilt-tripping about how us dating a white man is an insult to our ancestors, slave women who were chained to beds and raped.I’ve recently been following two stories on Madame Noire regarding black men and their dating choices. ’ ‘She’s only with you because of this.’ It’s sad because honestly if anybody knows me, all the girls I’ve dated, I’ve dated girls who’ve been as black as Akon and white as Casper. She could be blue, green or yellow and it would have been her.” [SOURCE]So here’s two very public examples of black men getting flack for dating light skinned women and non-black women. Black women also get the pushback when we date interracially, so isn’t it even? There are four key differences between black men getting criticism of their dating choices rather than the other way around. Patriarchy allows for men to date and marry anyone they want.The first was a piece about a self-proclaimed “dark skin activist” calling out Kendrick Lamar for having an extremely fair skinned fiancé. Despite all the complaining, guilting, lip smacking and neck rolling, a black man will ultimately and unapologetically do whatever the hell he wants. Check out the last 40 years of black men dating and marrying non-black women. Yeah, that’s happening, despite any objections their mammas, sisters, and jilted black girlfriends and ex-wives have to say about.Though men have been enjoying May-December romances forever, women haven’t been afforded the same freedom necessarily.Culturally, the older woman/younger man dynamic is perceived as an oddity, or a fluke.