“Parents get frustrated because they don’t get to hear their daughters talk the way they did when they were in elementary school,” notes Michael Thompson.
“Parents get frustrated because they don’t get to hear their daughters talk the way they did when they were in elementary school,” notes Michael Thompson.“But we need to find ways to connect with our children other than being part of their social lives.” The media set the tone for middle school. You’re lying to her by taking the back door into a relationship, hoping that one day she will see you as a lover.
”When you’re turned on by a woman and feel an urge to talk to her, you’re being stimulated by her femininity. Don’t manipulate your schedule in order to make sure you can see her.Encourage her to be friends with a wide spectrum of people (without forcing the issue), and always, always assume the best — so will she.” There’s a lot that’s cool about middle school.While much is written about mean girls, it’s important for parents to realize how much fun this time can be socially for their daughters.Some of these girls don’t care, while others desperately want to belong.But there is hope: “By eighth grade, in a certain sense, girls are done being mean to each other. And it can get turned on and turned off in a second. That’s not the way a healthy relationship starts out. It doesn’t work out with every single person you meet. Rejection is feared by many but it should be embraced by all. At this point she basically views you as a brother. (gross) And on top of it all, it’s a manipulative place to be. At this point you’re tricking her into spending time with you. Most girls over the course of your dating experience will reject you or you will reject them.Girls live their lives online, doing homework, watching TV, and talking to friends simultaneously. “Hormones make many girls feel edgy, crabby, cranky, and teary,” notes Steiner-Adair.While they can use the Internet in wonderful ways, they can sometimes use it to flame and shame each other, spread vicious rumors, and post malicious information behind girls’ backs. “Everyone’s bodies are developing and changing at different rates and this often makes girls feel uncomfortable with their own.” Raging hormones and interest in boys can also disrupt the existing social order.Here’s how one 15-year-old remembers middle school: “In sixth grade I went to a new school.I was really eager to make new friends but keep my old ones.